Communication

Aftr four score and nine years I have concluded that we do not communicate with each other by means of our native language. I think we do not because our concentration is but minimal and our attention span is inadequate. In verbal communication we make up our minds what the speaker is about to say within the first few words spoken. We are influenced more by his tone, manner of speech, and style of expression, than by his actual words. Another reason we do not understand is that we bring fixed opinions to the conversations and if the speaker trespasses this dogma we conclude immediately that he has nothing to say of interest. In written communication we do not have the writers mannerisms for clues. But many of the impediments to verbal understanding apply as well. Questions arise - who is this writer? - why is he writing? - what are his motives? - Is he trying to impress? - do I disagree with his premise? - is this worth my time? Again we never fully comprehend the writer's words and their meanings.